Does Holding Baby Spoil Them?

The simple answer is: no. However, this goes deeper than just whether you are spoiling your child or not, but what it is to hold your child.

When your child cries, you have 2 things in your brain. Do you let them cry-it-out, the old method parents before us used? Or do you run and grab baby, and try to console them in anyway you can?

Scientifically, the answer is simple. You pick them up immediately. Not to spoil, but so that you can grow their trust, so that they can learn to trust the world.

Let’s start at the beginning of what I know.

Brain development starts before the baby is born, while in utero. This we know. However, after they are born, the first three years is the most important time when children begin to learn, and learning begins right after they come out. The first thing a child will know is if they can trust or not, based off if you pick up the child or let them cry. Yes, if you let them cry, they will stop. This is only because they know their parent or caretaker will not come to them.

Sometimes babies just need to cry, even after you try to help them. Sometimes, much like adults, babies have those big feelings, and that’s okay.

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Tips for Fussy Eaters

Fussy eaters, at least to me, are actually pretty great. It shows that children are different, and that’s okay, and as parents, we need to show our children that its okay to be different and to not like certain foods.

The first thing to think about is if your child might not like the texture, this is a common reason why children don’t like foods. This would be things such as rice, quinoa, and cream of wheat or other gooey foods such as banana, puddings, or yoghurts. A good first sign is to watch what you give your child and see if there’s a similarity to their reaction and what you feed them.

Another huge thing is learning to respect both your child and their appetite. Something we as parents need to remember is that children are just small people. They have feelings and we just need to remember this. If your child wants a healthy diet change, such as not having dairy or meat, the best thing to do is to respect that and not make them have it, but maybe research new ideas. Not everyone likes the same thing and that’s the best part about being different.

Personally, I think a “no thank you” bite is always a must. Even if your child doesn’t want to, convincing them to take a “no thank you” or an adventure bite will show your child that it’s not bad to try new things, even if you don’t think you will like them. You’ll realize that, sometimes, your child might be surprised. Talking into, but not forcing, and explaining what this bite means, is a great way to get your child to agree to thing. By no means does this mean that they have to eat the whole thing, but just a bite so they know the flavors.

Learning how to make a lot of different things, and how to doctor it up, is a great way to get your child to eat things. A great example is that Big Chewy hates with a passion rice. However, with a lot of failures, I found out with cream of mushroom or chicken, some pepper and salt, corn and peas, he will eat the whole thing and come back for more.

I hope these tips helped you, and I know it’ll be long and tedious, but you’ve got this mama. I know you do.

Getting Ready

Sorry about the late post, I am fighting a major migraine and going to class, so it’s absolutely not fun. This post will be about how I am getting ready for Bay Chewy’s 5th birthday.

First off, I have never thrown him a birthday. I have had a little get together, but this year I am doing what I see as a big thing. Still doesn’t come close to what my cousin does for her son, but it is a start. Since he is still into it, I am seizing the year and we are making it a Paw Patrol birthday. In all honesty, I probably only spent about $150 altogether. I got a birthday banner, candy for goody bags, pin the badge on chase, a paw-shaped cake pan, Paw Patrol themed paws for his cake, and the goody bags and plates and such. Honestly, most of this was from the dollar store, and I couldn’t be more happy. The pan? From Hobby Lobby, and I got it for 40% off, so I only paid, like, $5.00 for it. I feel good about what I bought.

Of course, the reason I didn’t want to do this is because I don’t want Baby Chewy feeling like he doesn’t have a lot of people when mostly his family will be there. Can I just say that when I say our family will be somewhere, it can actually scare people? I am talking maybe 20-30 humans. Mostly children. To me, this thing is huge. I don’t even know who is going to be there yet, since it’s still about two weeks away.

I also got his cake kinds, which I am super happy about. They will be a chocolate and a blue funfetti.

I can’t wait for Baby Chewy to have his birthday party. Plus, I bought him a tablet, so he will be very happy, because we will be implementing learning on the tablet, which will also be used very, very little, since I don’t want him to be attached to electronics.

All I have to say is that I am very happy I thought of things early. Now I just have to make up goody bags and there we have it. This may be the least stressful thing in my life right now. Anything to make my Baby Chewy smile.

Mental Illness

Mental illness can be hard to talk about but it doesn’t have to be. Mental illness can be in the forms of anxiety (social or generalized), PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome), eating disorders, depression, suicide attempts and more.

Anyone can develop or have a mental illness, including mothers. Personally I suffer with depression and anxiety. Some people like to see this as an excuse, but believe it or not it doesn’t make your life easier. 20% of moms develop post-partum depression after having a child, and PPD only happens within a month or so after having your child This means, if left untreated, it can become worse and then be just…depression. One isn’t too worse than the other, but remember that baby can feed off your emotions. So, if your emotions are all over the place, then baby might feel that way too.

The best thing to do when you feel off on the emotional track is talk to your doctor. They can help you get the help you need and connect you to the right resources to get that help. If you are having issues figuring out why to get out of bed, crying for no reason, not being able to rationalize your existence…please find help.

I’m Tired

Let me be honest. I am so flipping tired. No, not the normal tired, the exhausted kind of tired. Look, I have been sitting here for ten minutes trying to find the “perfect” thing to write, walking on eggshells in my mind afraid of triggering or upsetting someone who might read my post. Then, something clicked in my mind.

If I am going to be an honest writer, if I am aiming to getting readers and if I am aiming to get the point across of what I want, reminder it’s that mothers aren’t alone in their mind, I can’t be walking on eggshells. I can’t be afraid to stir the pot a bit. I can’t sit there and go, “Oh gee…someone might get super offended or upset if I say that.” Not that I don’t care, but if I care too much, then I will get nowhere in life, or at least in my blog which, let’s all admit it now, has become my life, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

As a parent, I have tried attachment, peaceful, and losing my flippin’ mind, and I am sure a whole bunch of you parents have too. You can’t tell me that your child hasn’t stood at your feet and gone, “mommy…mommy…mommy…mommy…” and you though, “Kid…keep it up, I’m changing my name.” This is the stuff Moms and Dads don’t want to talk about. It happens, and guess what? It drives us nuts.

Do we love our kids any less? No. We don’t. We love them just as much as the day they were born. That doesn’t mean we have to love every single second of being a parent, either. There’s days I look at my husband and beg him to go find something to do with Baby Chewy so I can just sit there, and do nothing at all. Absolutely nothing.

So, I guess the ending of this post is when you come on to my page, expect whatever it is you don’t expect a mom to say or think, because more than likely that’s what it is going to be from now on. Mamas, don’t lose hope, just keep hanging on. Those amazing days when your child uses their listening ears or discovers something is all worth it.

Blogging Goals For October

I am actually very excited to October, and I have a few goals in mind when it comes to Blogging. I have high hopes in achieving these goals, so they can follow me to the following months and holidays and so that this blog simply becomes apart of me.

First and foremost, I am wanting to at least blog once a day, which I think is an awesome start. You wouldn’t think that this is hard but let me assure you, it absolutely is. Granted, there is a lot of things to talk about, and that’s all blogging is, is talking in writing form, but then to come up with a new post and trying to make it relevant is actually pretty difficult and that’s when people (want) to give up.

On top of posting every day, I am hoping to post RELEVENT posts. This means be it a day or a month, so be it. I plan on posting Octobery stuff in October, Thankful posts in November and Christmas ideas in December, as well as year-long goals in January. Hey, at least I have a rough-draft plan, right?

Another blog goal is to hopefully get better at the way I write. If you don’t like it, tell me so I can fix it or it wont get fixed, There’s no way for me to know if people don’t like my way of typing if I am not told. The good thing is, you all get a pretty decent image of who I am, apparently, because according to Mama Chewy, I speak very proper, and I type similar to my speech. Is it all similar, yes, but at least you get what you have. I hope to do some research on words so I don’t keep repeating.

Oh, research! Can’t have a decent blog without research about what you’re doing, which I plan to do as I read and learn in my Child Development class. I am learning stuff I never knew in that class. At least I know it’s a decent class, so then I am actually learning stuff, right?

I think that concludes everything I ((hope)) to do with my blog, and also gives you guys a good idea on my goals, and with what direction I plan to bring my blog on. Thank you all for support, and ideas, and everything.

Baby Chewy’s Favorite Shows: Fall

We know children change their favorite shows all the time. We currently got rid of cable, so finding decent children’s shows has been interesting. Here’s some shows Baby Chewy has been watching.

 

  • The Rugrats (Hulu)
  • Phineas and Ferb (Netflix)
  • The Wiggles (H)
  • Mini-Might Force (N)
  • Jimmy Neutron (H)
  • Ruff-Ruff, Tweet, and Dave (H)
  • Super Why (N)

This is just a handful, but you can never be too careful when it comes to what our little’s watch. I recommend always being present when they use the T.V. Even with this list, I had to change some of the episodes fear of it being too scary.