Does Holding Baby Spoil Them?

The simple answer is: no. However, this goes deeper than just whether you are spoiling your child or not, but what it is to hold your child.

When your child cries, you have 2 things in your brain. Do you let them cry-it-out, the old method parents before us used? Or do you run and grab baby, and try to console them in anyway you can?

Scientifically, the answer is simple. You pick them up immediately. Not to spoil, but so that you can grow their trust, so that they can learn to trust the world.

Let’s start at the beginning of what I know.

Brain development starts before the baby is born, while in utero. This we know. However, after they are born, the first three years is the most important time when children begin to learn, and learning begins right after they come out. The first thing a child will know is if they can trust or not, based off if you pick up the child or let them cry. Yes, if you let them cry, they will stop. This is only because they know their parent or caretaker will not come to them.

Sometimes babies just need to cry, even after you try to help them. Sometimes, much like adults, babies have those big feelings, and that’s okay.

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Author: theonlinemommyblogs

Aspiring writer. Aspiring actress. Aspiring singer. Inspiring.

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