50 Get to Know You Tag

Hey guys. Decided to do a “Get to Know You” tag post to kick off the weekend. Soooooo…here they are!!
1. What is your best friend’s name?
I have a few, but they’re mostly like sisters. Anna, Ayla, and Charity.
2. Who would you throw into the Bermuda Triangle?
My ex. So 100% my ex…
3. Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed?
Open. We can’t close it lmao.
4. Do you take the shampoos and conditioner bottles from hotels?
Actually, I don’t. My husband might, but I do not.
5. Have you ever stolen a street sign?
Nope
6. Do you always smile for pictures?
I attempt to, but I have a bad case of R.B.F. (Resting B**** Face) So I guess I don’t….
7. Do you ever dance even if there is no music playing?
No because I cant dance.
8. How many people have you slept with this week?
Mmmm…One
9. What is your song of the week?
I listen to a lot of musicals, always.
10. Do you still watch cartoons?
Does Family Guy count? Then yes.
11. Where would you bury hidden treasure if you had some?
No, no I wouldn’t because I need all the treasure I could get.
12. Heels or flats?
Flats 😊
13. What movies could you watch over and over and still love?
Probably The Princess Bride
14. Last person you kissed?
My husband
15. Would you ever strip or pose nude in a magazine?
If I was thinner, yes.
16. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper?
I actually write in a notebook all the time. Letter? Might have been 4 years ago.
17. Can you change the oil on a car?
Nope..
18. Are you dating?
I’m married, but we dated for almost 11 years.
19. Describe your ideal proposal?
Hmmm…probably being taken out to dinner and being proposed to with fireworks in the background. Instead, I’m the one who proposed. At home. Then we fell asleep early.
20. Are you lazy?
If I don’t feel good, if I feel okay, I am quite the opposite.
21. How many languages can you speak?
1, almost 2.
22. Are you stubborn?
Abso-fricken-lutely.
23. Ever watch soap operas?
Nope, no, nada. Not in my house.
24. Nicknames
Ginny, Harlequinn.
25. Ever used a gun?
Nope, never, ever, ever.
26. How old were you when you had your first kiss?
Like…6.
27. What color was the last bra you bought?
Tan.
28. Does anyone know the password to your email address?
My computer hahaha.
29. Do you want any tattoos?
I want some but I hate pain, sooo…
30. Any strange habits?
I don’t know…I cant stand still. I have to sway back and forth.
31. What’s the worst abuse you have done to your phone?
I drop my phones…constantly.
32. What ever happened with you and your first gf/bf?
He was abusive and I finally figured that out.
33. How old do you think you will be when you have your first child?
I was 19.
34. Are you a risk taker?
Yes, because without risk, it’s a boring life.
35. What happened the last time you cried?
Yesterday, stress does that.
36. Honestly, are things going the way you planned?
No. Hopefully they will soon.
37. What’s your worst habit?
I’m a hypochondriac, so I am constantly checking little things. Constantly.
38. What’s your favorite thing about your gf/bf/crush?
His smell.
39. Have you ever bitten your toes nails?
No? I cant reach them.
40. Do you have any strange phobias?
Death. Is that a strange phobia?
41. Do you miss anyone right now?
Yes. My grandfather who recently passed on.
42. Who are you in love with?
My husband and my son.
43. What do you want to know about the future?
If theres going to be a WW3, honestly, so I know to prepare.
44. Have you already planned your wedding?
Planned it, had it.
45. Do people ever take you seriously?
Not usually.
46. Why do you have a blog?
I like writing. To me, its my thing.
47. How old are you?
24…I’m old.
48. What is the one thing you’ll never do again?
Smoke cigarettes.
49. If you were the opposite gender. What name would you like to have?
Probably…Jorah or some other name from GoT.
50. Which celebrity would you change lives with?
Hmmm…I have no clue, honestly
          Thank you for bearing with me with a 50 questions!!

Dear Future Children (Current son Included)

                        Though the thought of this is a current impossibility due to medical circumstance, I can pray that God will grant me more children with my current husband. If this is possible, this is both my letter to them, as well as my current son.

                        I am Mommy. That’s all I really aspire to be, it’s all I have ever wanted to be. I’m just a normal woman from New York who easily lost her way from a hard childhood. Not bad, just hard when childhood really shouldn’t be hard. Childhood should be easy, and fun. They shouldn’t have to raise their siblings or be kept in their rooms.

                        Your Nana tells me Daddy and I will raise a Kingdom of God, and that’s what I intend to do. God is real, and you all will know him in time. That being said, I also intend to raise you as open mined individuals. Yes, you will know the Lord, but you will also know that some people are different. Some women like women, some men like men, some people don’t gender-identify. Some don’t believe their biologic gender is proper. Did God mess them up? No. He did want us to learn to accept everyone though. Always know, God doesn’t make mistakes.

                        Schooling is important. I will love you not matter what, this is true, however you will go to school. Whether this is actual school or homeschool is up to you. Daddy and I have both been teased and hated school, but Mommy finished and Daddy had to get his G.E.D. which was just a little harder. Whatever lets you finish, you can do. I don’t even care what branch you pick to go off of, whether finance, arts, or fine arts, that choice is yours.

                        College is a requirement as well. Not because a higher education will get you places, although it might, but because it will give you time to get used to it before you hit the real world. The real world can be cruel and harsh, and children should be eased into it. Not to mention, you can learn a whole lot from college, from how to deal with people, to how to do certain maths. You never know when you will need this information.

                        Is Mommy harsh, sort of, but only because I want the best for you children. It’s my job to not only leave a good world for you, but to raise you so you can take over this world. I don’t want to raise you to be LIKE me, or to be like Daddy. I want to raise you to be way, way better than we are or were. You deserve to have every opportunity open to you. Travel, learn languages, do what you need to do to be the best you that you can me.


                                                                        Forever love,

                                                                                    Mommy

Review of: To the Bone

T.V. Rating: T.V.-M.A.
Platform: Netflix
Genre: Comedy, Drama
            I don’t know why they put this movie under comedy. It is not a comedic movie whatsoever. It has its ups, but not enough to call it comedic. Most of the “comedy” parts are the ones with Alex Sharp “Luke”.
            Overall the movie was good, but it isn’t precisely a movie for “entertainment” purposes. It’s based off of a disease, anorexia, and how a young girl, Ellen, portrayed by Lily Collins, attempts to get better.
            Considering that anorexia  is an epidemic amongst young people, both female and male, it’s a very good thing to watch with your teenager, even if it’s rated MA. It shows a bare truth to what anorexia looks like, from both the inside and out. It shows different family aspects, and talking to your teenager about how to deal with the stresses of life.
            To the Bone is very real, very raw. It talks about reasons to live, and how everyone deserves that chance. It even has twists and turns, things you would never expect.

            So…the rating? I would probably give it an 8/10. It’s similar to a couple other “uplifting” or movies about very, very real things. However, it is a movie all its own because there’s not too, too many movies that help or try to shine a light on anorexia.

Benefits of Family Reading Time

       Family reading time is such an amazing time at my house. Just like my mother, I followed in her footsteps when it comes to reading to my LO, and he loves it. Sometimes my husband and I take turns with reading and prayer, which, in my house, coincide.
          We started having reading time with my son was about 2, he was pretty far in his language skills. Along with going to Speech Therapy, we added in reading almost every night with two or three books a night. At this point, he can almost read the books himself, without fully reading, of course.
         
          One of the best benefits is that it does help LO with language skills. Kids listen, even if they’re playing or falling asleep. At first, it’s just a jumbled mess, but then it starts to become language and they can start connecting their words together. As with everything, this will of course, take time. Therefore, the earlier the better. Reading may help your child excel when it comes to their language skills, which can be used later in life.

          Along with their language skills being much better, the next step is the fact it can start kids to read at a young age. Again, it will take time and it won’t be until about 3 or 4 years of age, but if you repeat read their favorite books, pointing out specific words, they will be able to point out the small words like “on, off, am, a, is, and it.” These are words they may not actually be reading yet per say, but its close enough to where all they should do is see the word to know what it says. This is a great practice for pre-k aged children.

          The last, and best benefit for family reading time is the fact you can have the whole family sit and read. Pass the book around with each page, whatever suits your fancy. Could just be children, mom and dad, but it can also include grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, everyone. It’s a great way to get the whole family involved, and that’s just so super fun.


Bullying

Bullying can be defined as: Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance (as taken from https://tinyurl.com/jgshhpd {Stopbullying.org}




Yesterday, and almost everyday my child goes somewhere, this is something he and many, many others have to go through. It’s so sad to think about how a 4-year-old, 10-year-old…anyone have to go through that when they’re trying to figure out how to live life, and that’s when some decide it’s not worth it. I dont understand why some people are okay with making others feel less. No child, no person, is less than you are, nor is someone more than you. 

My son was playing with a friends child about wanting to marry her, a harmless 4-year-old thing to do. Right? Then, the other children were taking her away, telling him it wasn’t allowed…ect. Something very special about my son is how much he is an empath. Most people want to raise these boys with no emotions, with the whole, “don’t act like a girl” and “boys don’t cry.” If my son sees something that makes him sad, he will cry. If he sees someone upset, he will comfort them.

Then there’s these kids who don’t want to be bothered, and enjoy making kids upset. Bless my sons heart, he acted as though they were playing with him, even if he knew they were doing it to be mean, he still went along with it because he wanted their acceptance. The sad thing is, some of these kids were our church members kid, and family.

I don’t know how to help my son, or other children being bullied. I have been there. My husband has been there. We always went with ignoring, but for young children that’s hard, isn’t it? How do you ignore people you want to be friends with? 

To all those that need, I am here if you need to talk. Everyone needs someone, and I would rather be there for someone. 


As always as of late, I will share my gofundme, only asking for people to share it if you want. This is my way of helping my family, so I can continue to help other people and look actively for a job while I do. Thank you.

GoFundMe To Help With Unexpected Loss

What Happened…

So, I made my last post…yay…

Then my husbands grandfather got sicker…and sicker…and sicker…

He recently passed away, and since, I have been mourning. Mourning what was, what was going to be, and what could have been. Mourning for my son, who thinks his Papa is going to come back, no matter what we or his therapist says. Mourning for my mother-in-love, who now only has her children to console her. Mourning for my husband, who has been busting his butt trying to provide for his hurting family. He hasn’t even been able to properly mourn or cry. 

So yes, this post will be for him.


I didn’t get much of a chance to actually GET to know Papa. I only knew what I saw of him for the 9 months we lived together. When I first moved to be with my hubby bubby, Grandfather was already in the hospital from having strokes, they were trying to get him better to come home.

After being homeless again, and again, we finally weren’t in October of 2016. We happily moved into a ground floor apartment and I stood to be Grandfathers caretaker. Was it easy? The answer is of course not. However, caretaking runs in my blood. My mother does it, my grandmother works in a hospital. It’s just something that doesn’t bother us. 

This man, though, made it so that I lived to make him happy, and that’s how I liked it. I’ve never grown so close to someone so fast before. We would sit and watch M*A*S*H, Criminal Minds, or whatever else he liked, and I would constantly keep his coffee cup filled. I never met a man like him, who liked BLACK coffee. Always. 

My heart hurts, even if I know he’s in a better place. The first day, my son tried to shake him awake. Luckily I was able to close the door and he went camping for a week. Though, now, he’s just expecting Grandfather to walk through the door. I think he knows it wont happen, but he can always keep his hopes up. 

Now it’s time for this Momma to worry. Worry about rent, worry about my family. I am trying to get a job, it’s not easy with my child and my mother in love, who is disabled. I know I will get one that works though.

I’m lucky enough to have a friend who is interest in raising money for us so, if I promise to write about something important each day, can you promise to share my link? 

https://www.gofundme.com/helpwithloss


Write tomorrow then,

Harlequin

Blogging Again

Well, it has been a long time, hasn’t it? Luckily I am still here, or unluckily, however you see it. 

To catch up, hey! I am an online mommy, I am 24, married with a child, I frequently babysit another child, and now thinking about working at fostering. Why? Being a parent gives me joy, comfort, and it helps me spread love around the world. This world is already a dark and scary place, if you can touch enough hearts with how to love unconditionally, it would be much better.

This blog will finally be my sanctuary where I can write recipes, stories, crafts and tell funny things that the littles do. As well as give advice, of course. Who doesn’t like someone you can ask advice to? 

Ah, the littles. They’re funny buggers. Do your littles watch Peppa Pig? We livein the great US of A, and my child thinks hes from  the U.K. It’s great.

“Mom, here’s my swimming costume!!”

“Can I have a biscuit?”

Then trying to explain such things is even better.  He’s only four, so I let him get away with it for now.

What do your littles do that you love?

~OnlineMommy