Thankful: November 10th

I am thankful today for food. Rather, the ability to buy and prepare healthy foods.

I know that there’s a lot of places that are actual food deserts, and the loss of honey bees doesn’t help, because now there might be a possible drop in food production in the future. (don’t roast me if there is and I don’t know. I don’t follow that type of thing unless its right there in my face or something. I tend not to find trouble unless it comes to me.) This all being said, I am very thankful that we currently have the ability to purchase food that is nutritious for us and our bodies.

Thankful: November 9th

Today, I am thankful for jobs, which gives my husband and one day I, the ability to provide for our family. If it wasn’t for having a job, my husband wouldn’t be able to provide for us while I go to school. Don’t get me wrong, I have had a job, several of them, which is why to my husband, it’s kind of my turn to succeed in school and be able to get a degree so I might be able to bring in an income. Granted, its only going to be childhood education, teaching preschoolers, at $11 an hour for even 4 hours a day for 4 days a week equals out to about almost $200 weekly. At least here I will be able to make sure we can meet all of our bills, will must husband also bringing this in. I want us to be able to be comfortable, if anything. So yes, thankful for jobs.

Thankful Post: November 8th

I am thankful for colors we get to have. Think about it, in a way, there’s thousands and thousands of colors we, the people of Earth, get to have. How amazing is that? I feel like we all use black and white so much, that we forget about all the other colors we have at our finger tips are. The world might be a better place if we gave everyone their own paint brushes and told them to paint to their hearts desire. Colors can make people the most passionate, loving creatures that they truly are.

I for one absolutely love colors, mainly pinks, purples, and blues, but we are unable to pain our apartment because of laws or rules, I guess the law of the complex or whatever, which I think is dumb considering we should have every right to paint and they can just paint white over that. Then again, now thinking about that, I can imagine it looking like someone’s fingernails after the 100 nail polish coat challenge.

Thankful posts 5th, 6th, and 7th

On to the next few days and I promise we are caught up. Thank you for being patient.

November 5th: I am thankful for God. Though I have a recent relationship with God, and still trying to figure all of that out, I am thankful that I have been shown mercy. The mercy I am talking about is, even though I am still struggling in a lot of ways, I am struggling a lot less, sad a lot less, and quite frankly, I have put the cat claws away and stopped being irrational and backstabby. This is huge for me since I am known to be that way as a defense mechanism with having a child young-ish and moving and being homeless and all that other stuff. It’s nice to see that I have been able to cope differently and pray when I need it. God has given me all this grace and mercy to be able to grow, and that’s a huge thing.

 

November 6th: I am thankful for my mother in law. Yup, this may be the only time you ever hear this, but I love my mother-in-law. She has helped me when it comes to growing, and how I react to certain things. Not a lot of people can sit there and talk highly of their mother-in-law, or how amazingly they raised their son, but I think mine did awesome. There’s also that I live with her, and when you live with someone, you become used to who they are and what they stand for.

 

November 7th: Woohoo, finally on the right day. I am thankful for the ability to go to school. Not a whole lot of mothers have this opportunity, and not a lot of people in general do, so the fact I am raising a child and have the ability to attend school with him going to school, and my lowest grade is only an 80, with things not totally being put in, this shows that this is a good thing and that school will be worth it in the long run.

Thankful November 2nd, 3rd, and 4th

Hey guys. To speed up the days and catch up, here are my thankful posts for November 2nd, November 3rd, and November 4th. Enjoy!

For November 2nd: I am thankful for my family. Rather, my husbands family who have added me as their own, whether they thought it was a good idea or not. It wouldn’t have happened if God didn’t let it, especially when my family and I are so badly estranged. Not that anybody wanted that, but it was pretty much like that before I even graduated from school. Sometimes that’s just what happens. Granted, my husbands family doesn’t like everything I do, but they will tell me rather than talking to everyone else about why they don’t like it. Even if they don’t, when they realize that there’s no talking me out of whatever I choose, then they decide they will be there for me, and that’s better than my birth family. It’s all about looking at the bright side of life. My husbands family is way better than my own, and I don’t think they know that.

 

November 3rd: I am thankful I have a home to go to every night. This is a big thing because my household has pretty much been homeless and it sucks. Not homeless to where we are sleeping on the street, though it almost came to that. The worst was living with two alcoholics who, one night, listerally got into such a bad fight I called my husbands aunt at 11pm or later to take Baby Chewy because I would rather him not with me than with me and possibly in danger. Since then, we have gotten on our feet and into our own apartment. Sure, it’s not a house, but it’s a roof over our heads until we can get a house.

 

November 4th: I am thankful for my husband. Everyone could sense this one too, probably. Quick background; my husband and I met online and by the grace of God, and help from others, I was able to move across the US and be with him and his family ((almost)) 3 years ago. To me that’s wild. I knew I loved him as a teenager and I still am in love with him, and love the fact he is not only emotionally supportive, but also he is supportive of my decisions, no matter what is it that I want to do. To find that kind of quality in a man is so amazing. For someone to go from a lazy divorcee to adopting a woman’s child, busting your butt to get a job to support your family and to be working on getting a raise…that’s kind of huge in my book. That’s why I am thankful for my husband.

My Love

“Are you in a hurry? Can you stay after class?”

These are the words a parent never wants to hear when picking their child up from class. It sticks to your heart and makes you wonder what happened. Did he say something? Was it the way his daddy dressed him this morning? These never-ending questions keep zooming through your head, into your soul.

This is what happened yesterday when I picked up Baby Chewy. Come to find out he almost got sent home because he made the choice to not listen, made the choice to hurt and upset friends, and made the choice to get into peoples’ faces. No, I didn’t teach him to do this, and it is absolutely behavior that is unacceptable.

“Redirect their attention,” others say, when you ask how to deal with a child who is misbehaving. When it really comes down to it though, sometimes that doesn’t work. All children are different, and yesterday mine proved he was smarter than to fall for a redirection, because he tried to redirect his teacher from the topic at hand.

I feel this is stuff that needs to be shown to light, and one of the reasons that I started writing. This is the stuff that parents will keep quiet because “no one else’s child does this” and “there must be something wrong with mine.” If we keep quiet, though, those people that need reassurance and need to know what to do or what might work, won’t know where to go.

Baby Chewy will always be my love. Always, and I will be here to support him in any way I can. His evaluation is soon, and I couldn’t be more happy that there might be someone who has some sort of answer, some sort of way for us to help our child who seems to be struggling along a bit. I always thought it would be easy.

Tips for Fussy Eaters

Fussy eaters, at least to me, are actually pretty great. It shows that children are different, and that’s okay, and as parents, we need to show our children that its okay to be different and to not like certain foods.

The first thing to think about is if your child might not like the texture, this is a common reason why children don’t like foods. This would be things such as rice, quinoa, and cream of wheat or other gooey foods such as banana, puddings, or yoghurts. A good first sign is to watch what you give your child and see if there’s a similarity to their reaction and what you feed them.

Another huge thing is learning to respect both your child and their appetite. Something we as parents need to remember is that children are just small people. They have feelings and we just need to remember this. If your child wants a healthy diet change, such as not having dairy or meat, the best thing to do is to respect that and not make them have it, but maybe research new ideas. Not everyone likes the same thing and that’s the best part about being different.

Personally, I think a “no thank you” bite is always a must. Even if your child doesn’t want to, convincing them to take a “no thank you” or an adventure bite will show your child that it’s not bad to try new things, even if you don’t think you will like them. You’ll realize that, sometimes, your child might be surprised. Talking into, but not forcing, and explaining what this bite means, is a great way to get your child to agree to thing. By no means does this mean that they have to eat the whole thing, but just a bite so they know the flavors.

Learning how to make a lot of different things, and how to doctor it up, is a great way to get your child to eat things. A great example is that Big Chewy hates with a passion rice. However, with a lot of failures, I found out with cream of mushroom or chicken, some pepper and salt, corn and peas, he will eat the whole thing and come back for more.

I hope these tips helped you, and I know it’ll be long and tedious, but you’ve got this mama. I know you do.