Thankful posts 5th, 6th, and 7th

On to the next few days and I promise we are caught up. Thank you for being patient.

November 5th: I am thankful for God. Though I have a recent relationship with God, and still trying to figure all of that out, I am thankful that I have been shown mercy. The mercy I am talking about is, even though I am still struggling in a lot of ways, I am struggling a lot less, sad a lot less, and quite frankly, I have put the cat claws away and stopped being irrational and backstabby. This is huge for me since I am known to be that way as a defense mechanism with having a child young-ish and moving and being homeless and all that other stuff. It’s nice to see that I have been able to cope differently and pray when I need it. God has given me all this grace and mercy to be able to grow, and that’s a huge thing.

 

November 6th: I am thankful for my mother in law. Yup, this may be the only time you ever hear this, but I love my mother-in-law. She has helped me when it comes to growing, and how I react to certain things. Not a lot of people can sit there and talk highly of their mother-in-law, or how amazingly they raised their son, but I think mine did awesome. There’s also that I live with her, and when you live with someone, you become used to who they are and what they stand for.

 

November 7th: Woohoo, finally on the right day. I am thankful for the ability to go to school. Not a whole lot of mothers have this opportunity, and not a lot of people in general do, so the fact I am raising a child and have the ability to attend school with him going to school, and my lowest grade is only an 80, with things not totally being put in, this shows that this is a good thing and that school will be worth it in the long run.

Thankful Post- November 1st, 2017

Today starts my thankful posts and I am super excited. Thankful posts are posts usually done in November about what people are thankful for, and why. I would love it if you told me in the comments what you guys are thankful for, too!!

For Day 1, I am thankful for my son. I know, I know, you all knew this was how it was going to start, but I had to. As I was saying, yes, thankful for my son.

My son is the reason why I did so much in my life that was good, even when people couldn’t see it. I left an abusive relationship, twice, found a home for a while, moved across the entire country for safety, found jobs, and finally going to school so that I can have a decent degree. I feel like if I didn’t have Baby Chewy relying on what I do, that I probably would be worse off than I am right now, and I don’t care how that sounds to you, but it’s the truth, and my whole family knows it.

I am so thankful that God put Baby Chewy in my life. He has been so amazing, and has pushed me past so many barriers that I may have not have gotten past otherwise. God has been good, indeed.

My Love

“Are you in a hurry? Can you stay after class?”

These are the words a parent never wants to hear when picking their child up from class. It sticks to your heart and makes you wonder what happened. Did he say something? Was it the way his daddy dressed him this morning? These never-ending questions keep zooming through your head, into your soul.

This is what happened yesterday when I picked up Baby Chewy. Come to find out he almost got sent home because he made the choice to not listen, made the choice to hurt and upset friends, and made the choice to get into peoples’ faces. No, I didn’t teach him to do this, and it is absolutely behavior that is unacceptable.

“Redirect their attention,” others say, when you ask how to deal with a child who is misbehaving. When it really comes down to it though, sometimes that doesn’t work. All children are different, and yesterday mine proved he was smarter than to fall for a redirection, because he tried to redirect his teacher from the topic at hand.

I feel this is stuff that needs to be shown to light, and one of the reasons that I started writing. This is the stuff that parents will keep quiet because “no one else’s child does this” and “there must be something wrong with mine.” If we keep quiet, though, those people that need reassurance and need to know what to do or what might work, won’t know where to go.

Baby Chewy will always be my love. Always, and I will be here to support him in any way I can. His evaluation is soon, and I couldn’t be more happy that there might be someone who has some sort of answer, some sort of way for us to help our child who seems to be struggling along a bit. I always thought it would be easy.

Tips for Fussy Eaters

Fussy eaters, at least to me, are actually pretty great. It shows that children are different, and that’s okay, and as parents, we need to show our children that its okay to be different and to not like certain foods.

The first thing to think about is if your child might not like the texture, this is a common reason why children don’t like foods. This would be things such as rice, quinoa, and cream of wheat or other gooey foods such as banana, puddings, or yoghurts. A good first sign is to watch what you give your child and see if there’s a similarity to their reaction and what you feed them.

Another huge thing is learning to respect both your child and their appetite. Something we as parents need to remember is that children are just small people. They have feelings and we just need to remember this. If your child wants a healthy diet change, such as not having dairy or meat, the best thing to do is to respect that and not make them have it, but maybe research new ideas. Not everyone likes the same thing and that’s the best part about being different.

Personally, I think a “no thank you” bite is always a must. Even if your child doesn’t want to, convincing them to take a “no thank you” or an adventure bite will show your child that it’s not bad to try new things, even if you don’t think you will like them. You’ll realize that, sometimes, your child might be surprised. Talking into, but not forcing, and explaining what this bite means, is a great way to get your child to agree to thing. By no means does this mean that they have to eat the whole thing, but just a bite so they know the flavors.

Learning how to make a lot of different things, and how to doctor it up, is a great way to get your child to eat things. A great example is that Big Chewy hates with a passion rice. However, with a lot of failures, I found out with cream of mushroom or chicken, some pepper and salt, corn and peas, he will eat the whole thing and come back for more.

I hope these tips helped you, and I know it’ll be long and tedious, but you’ve got this mama. I know you do.

Getting Ready

Sorry about the late post, I am fighting a major migraine and going to class, so it’s absolutely not fun. This post will be about how I am getting ready for Bay Chewy’s 5th birthday.

First off, I have never thrown him a birthday. I have had a little get together, but this year I am doing what I see as a big thing. Still doesn’t come close to what my cousin does for her son, but it is a start. Since he is still into it, I am seizing the year and we are making it a Paw Patrol birthday. In all honesty, I probably only spent about $150 altogether. I got a birthday banner, candy for goody bags, pin the badge on chase, a paw-shaped cake pan, Paw Patrol themed paws for his cake, and the goody bags and plates and such. Honestly, most of this was from the dollar store, and I couldn’t be more happy. The pan? From Hobby Lobby, and I got it for 40% off, so I only paid, like, $5.00 for it. I feel good about what I bought.

Of course, the reason I didn’t want to do this is because I don’t want Baby Chewy feeling like he doesn’t have a lot of people when mostly his family will be there. Can I just say that when I say our family will be somewhere, it can actually scare people? I am talking maybe 20-30 humans. Mostly children. To me, this thing is huge. I don’t even know who is going to be there yet, since it’s still about two weeks away.

I also got his cake kinds, which I am super happy about. They will be a chocolate and a blue funfetti.

I can’t wait for Baby Chewy to have his birthday party. Plus, I bought him a tablet, so he will be very happy, because we will be implementing learning on the tablet, which will also be used very, very little, since I don’t want him to be attached to electronics.

All I have to say is that I am very happy I thought of things early. Now I just have to make up goody bags and there we have it. This may be the least stressful thing in my life right now. Anything to make my Baby Chewy smile.

I’m Tired

Let me be honest. I am so flipping tired. No, not the normal tired, the exhausted kind of tired. Look, I have been sitting here for ten minutes trying to find the “perfect” thing to write, walking on eggshells in my mind afraid of triggering or upsetting someone who might read my post. Then, something clicked in my mind.

If I am going to be an honest writer, if I am aiming to getting readers and if I am aiming to get the point across of what I want, reminder it’s that mothers aren’t alone in their mind, I can’t be walking on eggshells. I can’t be afraid to stir the pot a bit. I can’t sit there and go, “Oh gee…someone might get super offended or upset if I say that.” Not that I don’t care, but if I care too much, then I will get nowhere in life, or at least in my blog which, let’s all admit it now, has become my life, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

As a parent, I have tried attachment, peaceful, and losing my flippin’ mind, and I am sure a whole bunch of you parents have too. You can’t tell me that your child hasn’t stood at your feet and gone, “mommy…mommy…mommy…mommy…” and you though, “Kid…keep it up, I’m changing my name.” This is the stuff Moms and Dads don’t want to talk about. It happens, and guess what? It drives us nuts.

Do we love our kids any less? No. We don’t. We love them just as much as the day they were born. That doesn’t mean we have to love every single second of being a parent, either. There’s days I look at my husband and beg him to go find something to do with Baby Chewy so I can just sit there, and do nothing at all. Absolutely nothing.

So, I guess the ending of this post is when you come on to my page, expect whatever it is you don’t expect a mom to say or think, because more than likely that’s what it is going to be from now on. Mamas, don’t lose hope, just keep hanging on. Those amazing days when your child uses their listening ears or discovers something is all worth it.