First Post of the New Year

Good Saturday morning, all.

This is my officially first post of the new year, and I think I am slowly getting into a place where I can start writing again, one thing that I have read being something called Shitty First Drafts being the reason of my wanting to write.

As for updates, I had a migraine yesterday, ear infection today, but have til Tuesday to get my life sorted out, so its not terrible. I am getting ready to write my first big piece in my accelerated English class, and am kind of nervous because my teacher doesn’t grade every day, which is understandable, he has kids. Still, I don’t think 3 assigned papers in one day should sit for a couple days.

I’m very excited to be writing again, and think that I will be getting better with the class I am in. I will be posting twice, maybe 3 times a week, depending on how I feel, for now. When I am on break in March I might try for daily until school starts again.

Thankful: November 15th

Today, I am thankful for the nature. Outdoors are so important, and such a great, amazing thing to me. We live in a beautiful world that is taken for granted, and I think everyone needs more outside time. It helps with depression, calms people down. Best memories are made when people are outdoors.

One of my best memories is sitting outside, around a bonfire with a martini or some other type of drink. Bonfires are maybe one of my favorite things ever.

I feel like the biggest issue with outside is that in the summer, there’s sun, and the sun can burn and blister your skin. However, with enough protection for your skin, I think it’s a great thing to go out and learn something. Learn to pitch a tent, fish, something.

Thankful Posts November 13th and 14th

November 13th: I am thankful for electricity today. If it wasn’t for electric, my mother-in-law wouldn’t be able to breathe, and I wouldn’t be able to play games to escape from reality sometimes. It also helps to entertain my son when I need that 5 minutes to clean, cook, or do homework. Honestly, if we didn’t have electric we would probably find different ways to entertain ourselves and our children, but with this day and age and only minutes at a time, electric is the real MVP here.

 

November 14th: I am thankful for games. Honestly. I am not a violent person, and usually I am calm and level headed. If not, however, I do enjoy picking up the occasional game so that I can get anger/anxiety or even depression I may be feeling out a bit, so that I can go back to thinking well.

 

I’m sorry for not letting you guys know, but I will be either writing something very simple or not writing at all on the weekends. I am deciding to take weekends for my family, unless there’s something huge.

Thankful: November 10th

I am thankful today for food. Rather, the ability to buy and prepare healthy foods.

I know that there’s a lot of places that are actual food deserts, and the loss of honey bees doesn’t help, because now there might be a possible drop in food production in the future. (don’t roast me if there is and I don’t know. I don’t follow that type of thing unless its right there in my face or something. I tend not to find trouble unless it comes to me.) This all being said, I am very thankful that we currently have the ability to purchase food that is nutritious for us and our bodies.

Thankful: November 9th

Today, I am thankful for jobs, which gives my husband and one day I, the ability to provide for our family. If it wasn’t for having a job, my husband wouldn’t be able to provide for us while I go to school. Don’t get me wrong, I have had a job, several of them, which is why to my husband, it’s kind of my turn to succeed in school and be able to get a degree so I might be able to bring in an income. Granted, its only going to be childhood education, teaching preschoolers, at $11 an hour for even 4 hours a day for 4 days a week equals out to about almost $200 weekly. At least here I will be able to make sure we can meet all of our bills, will must husband also bringing this in. I want us to be able to be comfortable, if anything. So yes, thankful for jobs.

Thankful Post: November 8th

I am thankful for colors we get to have. Think about it, in a way, there’s thousands and thousands of colors we, the people of Earth, get to have. How amazing is that? I feel like we all use black and white so much, that we forget about all the other colors we have at our finger tips are. The world might be a better place if we gave everyone their own paint brushes and told them to paint to their hearts desire. Colors can make people the most passionate, loving creatures that they truly are.

I for one absolutely love colors, mainly pinks, purples, and blues, but we are unable to pain our apartment because of laws or rules, I guess the law of the complex or whatever, which I think is dumb considering we should have every right to paint and they can just paint white over that. Then again, now thinking about that, I can imagine it looking like someone’s fingernails after the 100 nail polish coat challenge.

My Love

“Are you in a hurry? Can you stay after class?”

These are the words a parent never wants to hear when picking their child up from class. It sticks to your heart and makes you wonder what happened. Did he say something? Was it the way his daddy dressed him this morning? These never-ending questions keep zooming through your head, into your soul.

This is what happened yesterday when I picked up Baby Chewy. Come to find out he almost got sent home because he made the choice to not listen, made the choice to hurt and upset friends, and made the choice to get into peoples’ faces. No, I didn’t teach him to do this, and it is absolutely behavior that is unacceptable.

“Redirect their attention,” others say, when you ask how to deal with a child who is misbehaving. When it really comes down to it though, sometimes that doesn’t work. All children are different, and yesterday mine proved he was smarter than to fall for a redirection, because he tried to redirect his teacher from the topic at hand.

I feel this is stuff that needs to be shown to light, and one of the reasons that I started writing. This is the stuff that parents will keep quiet because “no one else’s child does this” and “there must be something wrong with mine.” If we keep quiet, though, those people that need reassurance and need to know what to do or what might work, won’t know where to go.

Baby Chewy will always be my love. Always, and I will be here to support him in any way I can. His evaluation is soon, and I couldn’t be more happy that there might be someone who has some sort of answer, some sort of way for us to help our child who seems to be struggling along a bit. I always thought it would be easy.

Tips for Fussy Eaters

Fussy eaters, at least to me, are actually pretty great. It shows that children are different, and that’s okay, and as parents, we need to show our children that its okay to be different and to not like certain foods.

The first thing to think about is if your child might not like the texture, this is a common reason why children don’t like foods. This would be things such as rice, quinoa, and cream of wheat or other gooey foods such as banana, puddings, or yoghurts. A good first sign is to watch what you give your child and see if there’s a similarity to their reaction and what you feed them.

Another huge thing is learning to respect both your child and their appetite. Something we as parents need to remember is that children are just small people. They have feelings and we just need to remember this. If your child wants a healthy diet change, such as not having dairy or meat, the best thing to do is to respect that and not make them have it, but maybe research new ideas. Not everyone likes the same thing and that’s the best part about being different.

Personally, I think a “no thank you” bite is always a must. Even if your child doesn’t want to, convincing them to take a “no thank you” or an adventure bite will show your child that it’s not bad to try new things, even if you don’t think you will like them. You’ll realize that, sometimes, your child might be surprised. Talking into, but not forcing, and explaining what this bite means, is a great way to get your child to agree to thing. By no means does this mean that they have to eat the whole thing, but just a bite so they know the flavors.

Learning how to make a lot of different things, and how to doctor it up, is a great way to get your child to eat things. A great example is that Big Chewy hates with a passion rice. However, with a lot of failures, I found out with cream of mushroom or chicken, some pepper and salt, corn and peas, he will eat the whole thing and come back for more.

I hope these tips helped you, and I know it’ll be long and tedious, but you’ve got this mama. I know you do.

Getting Ready

Sorry about the late post, I am fighting a major migraine and going to class, so it’s absolutely not fun. This post will be about how I am getting ready for Bay Chewy’s 5th birthday.

First off, I have never thrown him a birthday. I have had a little get together, but this year I am doing what I see as a big thing. Still doesn’t come close to what my cousin does for her son, but it is a start. Since he is still into it, I am seizing the year and we are making it a Paw Patrol birthday. In all honesty, I probably only spent about $150 altogether. I got a birthday banner, candy for goody bags, pin the badge on chase, a paw-shaped cake pan, Paw Patrol themed paws for his cake, and the goody bags and plates and such. Honestly, most of this was from the dollar store, and I couldn’t be more happy. The pan? From Hobby Lobby, and I got it for 40% off, so I only paid, like, $5.00 for it. I feel good about what I bought.

Of course, the reason I didn’t want to do this is because I don’t want Baby Chewy feeling like he doesn’t have a lot of people when mostly his family will be there. Can I just say that when I say our family will be somewhere, it can actually scare people? I am talking maybe 20-30 humans. Mostly children. To me, this thing is huge. I don’t even know who is going to be there yet, since it’s still about two weeks away.

I also got his cake kinds, which I am super happy about. They will be a chocolate and a blue funfetti.

I can’t wait for Baby Chewy to have his birthday party. Plus, I bought him a tablet, so he will be very happy, because we will be implementing learning on the tablet, which will also be used very, very little, since I don’t want him to be attached to electronics.

All I have to say is that I am very happy I thought of things early. Now I just have to make up goody bags and there we have it. This may be the least stressful thing in my life right now. Anything to make my Baby Chewy smile.

I’m Tired

Let me be honest. I am so flipping tired. No, not the normal tired, the exhausted kind of tired. Look, I have been sitting here for ten minutes trying to find the “perfect” thing to write, walking on eggshells in my mind afraid of triggering or upsetting someone who might read my post. Then, something clicked in my mind.

If I am going to be an honest writer, if I am aiming to getting readers and if I am aiming to get the point across of what I want, reminder it’s that mothers aren’t alone in their mind, I can’t be walking on eggshells. I can’t be afraid to stir the pot a bit. I can’t sit there and go, “Oh gee…someone might get super offended or upset if I say that.” Not that I don’t care, but if I care too much, then I will get nowhere in life, or at least in my blog which, let’s all admit it now, has become my life, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

As a parent, I have tried attachment, peaceful, and losing my flippin’ mind, and I am sure a whole bunch of you parents have too. You can’t tell me that your child hasn’t stood at your feet and gone, “mommy…mommy…mommy…mommy…” and you though, “Kid…keep it up, I’m changing my name.” This is the stuff Moms and Dads don’t want to talk about. It happens, and guess what? It drives us nuts.

Do we love our kids any less? No. We don’t. We love them just as much as the day they were born. That doesn’t mean we have to love every single second of being a parent, either. There’s days I look at my husband and beg him to go find something to do with Baby Chewy so I can just sit there, and do nothing at all. Absolutely nothing.

So, I guess the ending of this post is when you come on to my page, expect whatever it is you don’t expect a mom to say or think, because more than likely that’s what it is going to be from now on. Mamas, don’t lose hope, just keep hanging on. Those amazing days when your child uses their listening ears or discovers something is all worth it.